Strength doesn't come from what we can do. It comes from overcoming the things we once thought we couldn't do. Carol Dweck's Mindset Book is a must read for parents. Here is a very brief snap shot of the basic premise.
A fixed mindset is one where we believe that our talent, abilities and intelligence are fixed. We are either smart or dumb. We are either talented at something (art, music, sports, math ) or we aren't. As soon as we face a setback, we find someone/something to blame.. We develop an irrational fear of failure and tend to take less risks because success & failure are so tightly tied to a sense of identity.
A growth mindset is one where we believe that everything about a person is malleable. Through resilience and effort, anyone can grow. There are no smart or dumb people — only those who have unlocked their potential and those who haven’t. In the growth mindset, we believe that success is a result of effort rather than just raw talent, so we work hard to grow and improve. Setbacks and mistakes are seen as part of any endeavor, and treated as opportunities for improvement.
Based on the work of Stanford psychology professor Dr. Carol Dweck, and author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.
Great Links for you and your kids:
Mindset Toolkit for Parents
Amazon's Math I Can for Kids and Teens
Growth Mindset Tools For Kids